與青少年共處

學校有一份甚佳的PPTX... 對作為青少年人的家長的一份提醒..

Quote From Teenage Kids..

"There is a lot more going on in our heads than we let on."
"Peer pressure has caused me to do things my parents wouldn't want me to do."
"Because I am concerned about what my friends might think, I am afraid to be myself."
"The worst part of being a teen is all the pressure to be skinny."
"I never used to wear makeup. I do now to cover up my flaws."
"At our age, we are really developing personalities. And although we may not be what you expect, we can only be ourselves."
"One day I am happy and the next day I am sad. Is this a normal part of growing up?"
"Loyalty is an important part of being a friend."
"We don't need to be told what to do all the time but sometimes we do."
"I love to learn, but I hate being taught."

Some Truths..
- We want kids who will be self-motivated and take responsibility for their own life even if it is difficult.
-  Adolescence is  a much different experience for our kids from what it was for us.

- Kids do not need empty praise, but they do need informed encouragement.
- Children who feel they belong at home won't be so desperate to belong to the wrong groups.
-  Teenagers want you to be involved in their lives, even if they don't seem as if they do.
- Create a sense of belonging in your home.
- Make sacrifices to spend more time with your children.
- We must model what we teach, or what we teach won't take hold.
- We don't parent teenagers by rules;  we parent teenagers by relationships.
- Get extraordinarily involved in your teenager's lives.
- Kids are watching us twice as much as they are listening to us.
-  Children and adolescents must be given plenty of opportunities to decide for themselves, especially while they are still open to early parental guidance.
- If you've never given your kids the freedom to fail, you haven't equipped them with the freedom to succeed.
- Parenting adolescents is about finding the right balance between holding our growing kids close and letting them go.
- Constant criticism is an extremely unsuccessful form of communication.
-  An over-protective parenting style is a prescription for disaster.
- You must allow adolescents to have some freedom.
- Career-driven parents miss what matters most - a rich and rewarding home life.
- Don't do everything for your kids.

Surviving your Kid's adolescence...
- Follow Through
- Watch your expectations.
- Accept them where they are
- Take time to listen
- Respect their choices
- Ask for forgiveness
- Respect their privacy
- Communicate clearly
- Talk about potential problems
- Don't show them off or embarrass them
- Don't pick at their flaws
- Don't make every instance in life a "Teachable Moment"
- Don't make Icebergs out of Icicles